Divorce is difficult for a family. The worst affected parties by the divorce are the children. It takes a toll on their psychological state. Divorce shatters their world as they knew it and as they try to make meaning of their new world, they go through lots of emotions.
If one is wondering how to deal with an angry child after divorce, there are a few things that can help the child cope.
First is that you must minimize conflict. When two bulls fight, the grass suffers, in this case, the grass is the innocent kids. When Mum and Dad are always fighting, the child is in a dilemma. They don’t know which side to support. At times they may blame themselves for causing mum and dad to fight. This happens especially when the conflict is about them. Despite how angry one is with their spouse, keep the children out of your arguments. Reassure them that it is not their fault that dad and mum have to separate. Also, reassure them that nobody knows why the divorce is happening. Don’t antagonize them against their other parent.
Ensure that when the child is with you create a sane stable loving environment. You have no control over what happens on the other end, so ensure that the environment is sane and stable when they are with you. Don’t make promises to the other parent. Don’t talk negative things about the other parent anywhere. This will stable the child and they will grow to love their mother.